The Buddha said in Volume 3 of the Lankavatara Precious Sutra: “Greetings are called the mother, and ignorance is the father.” In this world, everyone has desires, so all kinds of troubles arise. Some people are greedy for money, some are greedy for fame and wealth, and some are greedy for sex. If men and women in the world are not restrained by precepts or worldly morality, their greed for lust will develop into sexual immorality. What is told here is the story of an impulsive extramarital affair between a man and a woman that almost led to terrible consequences.
Xiaomei is a successful woman who combines beauty, temperament and wealth. She and Awei formed a very happy family and raised two smart children, a boy and a girl. But since Xiaomei had an affair, it almost led to the breakdown of the family.
During a business trip, Xiaomei met Tian, a man she thought she was very compatible with. The two had similar temperaments and similar hobbies. But there is no unselfish love in the world. In order to get Xiaomei forever, Tian actually took the initiative to find Awei and informed the two of their abnormal relationship, intending to destroy their marriage. After Ah Wei returned home, he was so angry that he beat Xiao Mei severely in front of his children. After Xiaomei was beaten, she insisted on getting a divorce, but Ah Wei never agreed.
Xiaomei found us through the introduction of a friend. Looking haggard and pale, she cried and told what happened. After hearing this, I told her: “You can’t divorce now because the affair between you and Tian will only become more painful if it continues. Tian originally had a harmonious family and had a daughter, but you abandoned your respective families on impulse. If they are reunited again, the consequences will be bad and they will be separated soon. Xiaomei, since your killing karma has not been eliminated (you have not become vegetarian yet), coupled with the sinful karma of sexual immorality, if you do not change your ways and repent, you will not be able to survive due to a terminal gynecological disease. By the age of 40.” Xiaomei was shocked after hearing this and asked hurriedly: “I have been suffering from unbearable pain in my lower abdomen recently. Could it be that I really have some gynecological disease? I am only 36 years old. How can I avoid this disaster? “
“You should go home, fulfill your duties as a wife and mother, take good care of your husband and children, cut off contact with Tian, kneel down and recite the 49 devotions of the Ksitigarbha Sutra to him, eat vegetarian food, release animals, observe the precepts and practice Buddhism Practice.” Xiaomei nodded and said, “I’ll do it when I get back.” Two weeks later, a rosy-cheeked Xiaomei came to see us. As soon as we met, she held my hand and said, “I don’t see Tian anymore. Tian just doesn’t want to break up so easily. Today he has called me more than a dozen times to threaten me. I’m very scared.”
“Ding…” the phone rang again, “Hello, Xiaomei…”
I took the phone and replied: “I am Xiaomei’s sister (it is more convincing as a sister). I learned about you and my sister, and I want to help you.”
“You help? How can you help!”
“Both you and my sister have families, you are old and you are young. You should be responsible for your respective families and assume your own obligations.”
“Then, has your sister ever thought about me? Did she break up with me just like this? It’s not that easy. Let your sister answer the phone quickly, or I will make her regret it now!” The other party was a little excited.
“Don’t be impulsive. Have you ever thought about your parents and your children? Your parents have worked hard to raise you. Are you worthy of them?”
“Stop talking nonsense, if Xiaomei wants to break up, I will… jump off the building and commit suicide! I will make her regret it and make their whole family uneasy! I will die now…”
“Do you think that everything will be over once you die? The saddest thing at that time will be your parents, your family, relatives and friends. Is this worthy of them?” In order to stabilize the other party, I softened my tone and said, “Mr. Tian, I used to be like you (I had no choice but to make up a white lie). I had an affair, wanted to divorce my husband, and the family conflict was extremely fierce. At that time, I almost committed suicide because I couldn’t figure it out, but At that moment, I thought about what I had done in my life, other than worrying about my family and working hard for my parents all my life, but not repaying them. In that moment, I gave up the idea of committing suicide. Slowly, I shifted my energy. When I started doing charity work and helping poor orphans and lonely elderly people, I discovered that people can live a meaningful life. Now I live a very fulfilling life, with a harmonious family, a smooth career, and new goals and values in life.”
On the other end of the phone, Tian listened silently, as if he had some understanding, and it took him a while before he spoke: “Oh! Let Xiaomei give me some time and let me think about it. We can contact each other through text messages…”
“Amitabha!” I finally breathed a sigh of relief and turned to the frightened Xiaomei and said, “Don’t worry! It’s okay. You have to insist on chanting sutras and dedicating sacrifices, abandoning evil and doing good, observing precepts and practicing, and start your life again…”
Two months later, Xiaomei’s life became very fulfilling. She chanted sutras every day, often repented of her thoughts that were not in accordance with the Dharma, and silently performed good deeds and accumulated merit. The whole family has begun to eat vegetarian food and practice Buddhism together, and family life has become more harmonious. In such an environment, the children are growing up healthily.
Finally, I hope that all families in the world can be harmonious. Husbands and wives should love each other and must not have extramarital affairs due to temporary greed and impulse. The consequences of sexual immorality are very terrible and can lead to family destruction and death. I hope everyone will take this as a warning!
Tip: The two examples of “past life and present life” and “dangerous extramarital affairs” illustrate the horror of sexual immorality. At present, extramarital affairs, mistresses and other sexual immoral phenomena are common in society, causing many problems such as family breakdown and social instability. Although sexual immorality aims at temporary happiness, the consequences are endless. The blessings in this life are reduced, the body becomes ill, and after death, one directly falls into hell and suffers. I advise everyone to strictly abide by the precepts and not be tempted by the outside world or observe the impure nature of the body. If you have committed adultery, you should make up your mind to change your past, repent, and never do it again, so that you can change your destiny.
